Bigger than Conflict
No organization has ever moved forward without conflict among its people. Conflict, while often painful, is inevitable. While we can’t avoid conflict, we can grow through it, especially as we follow the apostle Paul’s guidelines for handling differences with others.
Ephesians 4:25:27, 29-32
Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold … . Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
In Business Terms …
With the help of Christian brothers and sisters, we can learn a more constructive way to negotiate conflict. We need to admit to the person involved that what they said or did, hurt us. We need to say “ouch”, every often and talk about what that ouch means, rather than discounting relational wounds and powering past them. As we get better at acknowledging the hurt that conflict causes us, we also become more aware of the hurt that conflict causes others. This has led me to approach conflict resolution with a much gentler spirit, both for my sake and for others’ sake. Bottom line, I’m talking about a kind of vulnerability in relationships that does not come naturally. But I really believe it’s a necessary part of obedience to Christ.
Something to Think About:
Coping with difficult people is always a problem, especially if the difficult person happens to be yourself.
Have an excellent week!