Forgiveness is part of life – so enjoy the journey!
Coming back to our teaching on handling disappointment:
Everything in life is based upon choices. You can choose to remain in a bad attitude or to change it. You can choose to be miserable the best part of your life, our change it. Our choices in life determine a great deal the final outcome of things in our lives. I said to many people in the past that they are the “architect of their own set of problems” – and some of them even the builders of it as well.
You see the very fact that we do have a choice in things; we can choose to get out of this circle of Job and start to refocus our attention on Christ and His purpose in our lives, or not and remain in this vicious circle of bitterness and depression until we do not know what is right and wrong anymore. I have experienced people more than once during counseling sessions where it seems that they prefer to stay in this negative circle because the problems sort of define their miserable lives. They love to receive the pity and attention from other people and will not know how to deal with joy and freedom in Christ.
“Who is the man who fears the LORD? Him will he instruct in the way that he should choose.” Psa 25:12- ESV)
Look at the model on the left and find the contact point of the third circle (Job syndrome) with the second circle and you will find one word; Acceptance.
Let me be quite open and honest with you today. NOTHING is going to change, not before you can learn to accept things in life. I am not talking about being a pushover now and that you have to accept everything that is thrown at you. No absolutely not. But look at the principles of the well-known Serenity prayer: (In my own paraphrasing)
- There are things that you can avoid or change – have the courage to do so;
- Then we have the things that we cannot avoid or do anything about it;
- These are the things in life that we have to accept and learn how to deal with it;
- And the wisdom to distinguish between the two.
Acceptance of the situation also brings relief. It brings a sense of being set free from the situation so that you can now deal with it from a different point of view. Let me give you an example:
- If you are being retrenched from your company, what benefit or good will it have for you to keep on fighting against this process?
- Will the company change their criteria to suite you, or will they continue regardless of your attempts and grievances?
- The choice that you make to fight the retrenchment process could end up in bitterness, self-pity, destruction and even unemployment for a long time.
- But, on the other hand; acceptance releases you from the pain of the retrenchment process and enables you to refocus on the future and to find secure employment even before your retrenchment period expires. Meaning that you could have the benefit of double earnings for a few months (that is from the retrenchment package as well as from the new employment package).
Forgive the people involved as described in the previous post. Rededicate yourself to the Lord and begin to praise and worship Him for everything in your life. Through these steps it will bring you to the next and new point where Jesus can deal with you. And this brings me back to my original scripture in Hebrews:
- All these people died having faith. They did not receive the things that were promised, yet they saw them in the distant future and welcomed them, acknowledging that they were strangers and foreigners on earth. Heb 11:13
- All these people won approval for their faith but did not receive what was promised, since God had planned something better for us so that they would not become perfect without us. Heb 11:39 -40 ISV)
You see, God has planned something better for us when we go through trials and tribulations. Although we do not see it from the beginning, He always works with a plan and the outcome will be for our benefit, because He love us. And YES, it is your choice if you:
- want to see it in the distant future and welcome it;
- And if you want to embrace it with faith and love;
As soon as we accept the situations and disappointments in life and make the right choice, then God can continue this life changing process by building in us the following:
- Faith and Trust – It is only through trials and tribulations that we learn to truly trust the Lord and Him alone!
- New character & Love – His character to minister and witness to other people
- Relationship building – to be more intimate with Him!
- New vision and hope – He brings new wisdom and insight;
- New power – new power in the Holy Spirit through faith.
These last two verses from the Word captures it all:
“Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us”. Rom 5:1-5 –KJV)
“So, what a blessing when God steps in and corrects you! Mind you, don’t despise the discipline of Almighty God! Job 5:17 –MSG)
See the disappointment and trauma not as a curse or as the wrath of God upon your life, but rather see it as small corrections and as an upgrade to a higher level. All the more so if it is a major situation where you even fear for your own life and safety (where you could lose everything in a moment), accept it as a major upgrade and because the Lord knows you and expects you to deal with the situation and come out triumphantly at the end.
Remember, the Gospel of Jesus Christ is a practical Gospel and you can only find the blessing from it when you apply it to your life.
Do the right thing, make the right choices, forgive and be blessed to be a blessing!
This was now the final delivery of this teaching and I trust that it would make the same impact in your life as it has in mine. Forward it to someone you know who is also struggling with disappointment so that you can make a difference in his/her life and praise God for His mercy and grace.